Alcoholism and How to Quit Drinking Alcohol

Alcoholism and How to Quit Drinking Alcohol

For thousands of years
people have been brewing
and also fermenting alcoholic drinks.
Alcoholic beverages
have been a staple of human society
for thousands of years.
However, there are some people
who cannot regulate their desire for
and therefore intake of alcohol.
Regardless of how much
of a detriment that is to
various aspects of their life.
Now, it’s at that point
that we consider that somebody has
alcohol use disorder.
In today’s world,
it is considered highly insulting
to say that someone is an alcoholic.
It is more politically correct
to call it “alcohol use disorder”.
However, I do not agree
that it is actually a disorder.
for the sake of your own understanding
of a concept which your consciousness
has already been ingrained with,
I’m going to use the word alcoholic
in this episode,
not because I’m intending
to insult anyone,
but because it gives me a way
to help people who
understand certain language
to understand the condition
that they already think they comprehend.
It also must be said before
I start this episode officially,
that I could write a book on alcoholism
and all of the different
patterns that go into it.
So consider what I’m
about to share with you
a seriously condensed
version of the subject.
An addiction is a coping mechanism.
It is in essence,
self administered pain medication.
You may benefit before
you watch this video,
to understand addiction in and of itself.
You can do this by
watching my video titled:
Addiction and How to Overcome Addiction
Alcohol use is no exception.
However, alcohol use
is an interesting thing
because it is potentially
the most widespread
substance addiction.
It’s becoming rivaled
by medications, but…
Let’s say that it’s societally
acceptable to drink alcohol.
Which makes it much easier for people
to deny that they actually have a problem.
now when we’re going through our life
we become accustomed to
a certain level of pain and tension.
I mean, you all know this,
if you are in a painful relationship,
you just become used to
the normal kind of low level pain
you’re living with every day.
It’s for this reason,
that I think that alcohol “abuse”
is so prevalent.
Meaning that people don’t really identify
that the reason that they’re using alcohol
and the reason they love feeling buzzed
or drunk even,
is because in that moment,
they get relief from pain
that they didn’t even consciously
really realize they had.
People can look you straight
in the face and say:
“I don’t have an alcohol problem.”
“I’m not using it as an addiction.”
“I’m not using it as a pain med.”
“I just like the way it
takes the edge off.”
Without understanding that
to imply it “takes the edge off”
implies there’s some
sort of pain or tension
that it takes the edge off of.
The fact that alcohol is such a staple
for human social functions,
exacerbates this lack of awareness
around the true motives and needs
for the consumption of alcohol
as well as why we like it so much.
All addiction is a modality of escape,
a modality of relief.
It is a modality of “rescue”
from a specific tension of pain.
Let’s call it distress.
Now each specific addiction
feels like relief
from a specific sensation,
because these specific pains,
these specific tensions,
these specific points of distress
dictate what will give relief.
And alcohol is no exception.
So you can understand
this underlying distress
that is creating the need for specifically
the addiction to alcohol,
I’m going to explain that for you today.
The pain that fuels alcohol addiction
is unsafety in relationships.
That means unsafety with people.
Alcoholics have a high
degree of social anxiety.
Whether they recognize
and admit to this or not,
is another thing.
It is very hard for alcoholics,
especially men,
to admit that safety is their issue.
This makes them feel weak
and in many cases, emasculated.
The other very hard thing to face
is that if you are an alcoholic,
your background,
meaning: childhood environment socially,
was a dysfunctional one.
Now a lot of people don’t recognize
that their relationship is dysfunctional.
Because it’s hard for a
fish swimming in water
to understand the water,
the limits of the water,
the problems with water,
unless they experience something else.
Very few people have come to understand
that it is the emotional and mental
and sometimes physical wounding
that was a byproduct of childhood trauma,
that is actually creating
their current addictions.
Very hard for them to realize this.
Instead, what they’re doing is saying:
“Well, I must be addicted because
of some genetic predisposition.”
“I must be addicted
because of some abnormality
in my brain chemistry.”
“I must be addicted because
I have some sort of a
irreparable character flaw.”
~ Laughter ~
Now the truth couldn’t
be any further from this.
And let’s be honest,
because connection
or our sense of our own childhoods,
our family connections,
tend to be the most carefully guarded ones
in our entire experience,
all of us would prefer
for there to be another explanation
then that the reason that
we have this pattern
is because of a dysfunctional
situation in our childhood home.
~ Laughter ~
The thing is, if we don’t understand this
and we don’t really directly look at those
negative patterns that
were ingrained in us
that cause distress,
(that’s the reason for the
addiction in the first place)
then at very best,
even if we aren’t able
to get off of alcohol
we become a dry drunk.
Now for those of you don’t understand
what a dry drunk is,
its somebody who regardless of
whether they’re on alcohol
or off alcohol entirely
and even for years,
the same traits in character,
the same detrimental behavior
that was present when they were drinking,
is still present.
There’s just no drinking.
The sad thing is,
is that if you come from a
dysfunctional home environment
which by the way,
it’s actually impossible
to become an alcoholic
if you do not come from
a dysfunctional situation
in your childhood environment,
the sad thing about this whole situation
is that you will repeat those patterns
in your adult life.
It’s a lot easier for people to
look at their adult relationships
and to go: “Wait a minute,
this really isn’t working for me,
and it’s dysfunctional.”
Then it is for people to realize
that that dysfunction playing
out in their adult life,
is an exact mirror reflection
of the exact dysfunction
that was present in their formative years.
between ages birth
and about eight years old
when a child starts to transition
into the mental aspect of growth,
they are literally being programmed
with these patterns,
regardless of whether
they’re healthy or not.
Thus they repeat
when they are unresolved
or changed.
The pain that unites
alcoholics is the feeling
that relationships are not safe.
Especially emotionally.
Even though on a physiological level
alcohol depresses the
central nervous system
and therefore delivers some
form of physical pain relief,
the reason that men who
return from war with PTSD
end up alcoholic, is also,
unsafety in human relationships.
Just think about it for a minute.
If you’re constantly on high alert
waiting for any moment that a person
is going to jump out and shoot you.
If you’re constantly on alert
knowing that anyone could
betray you at any moment
because the rule of the game in
terms of human relationships
is war…
That’s also a relationship problem.
I’m unsafe in relationships.
People who are alcoholic
feel as if there is absolutely no way
to guarantee and control
being able to have a
feel-good relationship
that stays good.
Now it is this pattern, shall we say,
that makes it so they choose
the partners that they do.
The partners that they choose
will be of the same belief.
Therefore there will be
very specific strategies
that they and their partner
employ in order to try to
make the relationship safe.
Of course, we know that these
patterns are dysfunctional
and make the relationship
unsafe in and of itself.
However, to both people
engaged in this relationship,
it feels more like safety.
First and foremost,
Now those of you who have
been through the AAA programs
already understand that
what I’m getting at here
is this classic relationship
that people talk about
between the narcissist
and the codependent.
Unsafely in relationship causes a person
to come down with a subconscious
decision about life.
And that decision is:
The law of the land is,
it’s every man out for himself.
But that decision makes somebody
do something interesting…
It makes them start to realize
that if they’re gonna
get their needs met
or anything else like that that’s in
alignment with their best interests,
it’s gonna have to be them
fighting for their own best interests
against everyone else.
This causes them to go
into a kind of bubble.
This bubble is what we call narcissism.
But the thing is,
is that narcissism is not
some sort of an issue
with morality, either.
It’s a condition or a pattern
of relationship style.
Specifically codependency and narcissism
is a relationship style that evolves
out of unsafety in relationships.
To understand more about narcissism,
watch my video titled:
With that being said,
the codependent is in
fact also a narcissist.
They’re a covert narcissist, though.
Now I’m going to do an entire episode
probably one day,
on codependency in and of itself.
because it’s such a poorly
understood concept as well.
To an alcoholic a feel-good
relationship feels impossible.
There is no way to ensure
that one’s vulnerability
is safe and protected from harm.
Many people who are alcoholic,
unconsciously feels that they’re
tiptoeing on broken glass
with people and as if their
entire life has to be lived
with the tension of pretense.
In fact, pretense is the
reason most people
like to get buzzed or drunk.
If you’re constantly living
in this tense state
of carefully-planned words and actions,
you end up feeling uptight.
Alcohol becomes a way of
letting down that pretense
and feeling free and loose and
authentic and uninhibited.
Those of you who have been
reading my travel blogs
know that the most dominant
negative vibration of
London – England or England in general,
is pretense.
It should be no wonder then,
why the nightlife,
I should say the culture in England
is all about getting drunk
once you get let out of work.
It’s because of trying to cope,
with pretense.
Now the thing is if you have to
keep up pretenses in a relationship,
it means you feel unsafe
to be really who you are.
Now when you are uninhibited
and you are able to
let down that pretense,
you’re able to be actually more
authentic to who you really are.
However, alcohol gives
you another doorway out.
It’s this one:
You may be more authentic
and more true to how you really
think and feel on alcohol,
but the next day if people have
an issue with that authenticity,
you can blame it on the alcohol.
But what we have to get is that
this feeling inhibition
is specifically because
of feelings of unsafety.
As I mentioned, to an alcoholic
security in relationships
and tenderness in relationships
feels impossible
because of the plethora of
dysfunctional patterns that plays
out in their relationships
that creates this feeling of
complete unsafety socially.
All of those patterns
boil down to one main thing,
and that one main thing is:
Every man has to fend for themselves.
No one’s going to take your best
interests as part of them self.
In fact, they’re gonna be against it.
So you’ve got to fight for
your own best interests.
Now this makes transaction
the most safe relationship you can be in.
Because the laws of the
game are straightforward.
There’s no surprises.
“I give you this, you give
me that in exchange.”
In a world where everyone’s only
out for their best interest,
you’re actually fundamentally alone,
regardless of but that you’re in the
room with other people or not.
And this creates this tension
that you often see with alcoholics,
of trying to control absolutely
every element
of their social relationships.
Being so unsafe that they
try to control everything,
creates a tension and an authenticity
that is almost unbearable,
which then leads them to the
desire to take the edge off
that constant tension.
This compels them to drink.
In essence they drink
to relieve the tension
of the constant control
they’re trying to exert
over everything and everyone
so is to try to avoid the
many dangers they associate
with other people and
with human relationships.
The thing is if your alcoholic
you’ve never actually
been in a relationship
where two people take
each other’s best interest
as part of their own best interests.
So you don’t even know
what you’re missing.
If you don’t even know
what you’re missing,
you don’t know how to resolve the pain.
The pain just becomes
a normal part of life.
It’s almost like if you’re
born with two broken legs,
and you’re in pain all the time,
but everyone around is
acting like that’s normal.
Pretty soon you get gaslighted.
You think:
“Well, you know, I feel this way,
but like obviously, it’s not
okay to feel this way,
and no one else is reacting
as if I should feel this way,
so I guess I’m just gonna
try to cope with it.
I guess there’s something wrong with me.”
The second layer to this lack of awareness
that keeps alcoholics stuck,
is the fact that in order to stay safe,
they made a very important
“decision” about life:
There is no such thing
as a safe relationship.
Many people who are focused
on addiction recovery,
point to genetics or the brain itself,
for why some people
suffer from addiction.
The thing that most people miss,
is that genetic expression
is altered by experience
and the environment
shapes the human body.
Including the brain.
This includes the interpersonal
experiences the person has.
For this reason,
it could be said that brain development
is a reaction to the environment.
If one has a healthy safe
relationship in childhood,
the brain will form differently
than it will if the necessary conditions
for healthy brain development,
most especially emotional
conditions, are not available.
This distortion of brain development
is what many researchers point to
as the cause of addiction.
When in fact, that’s like saying
the light came from the light bulb.
We all know the story of light began
long before the light bulb.
The way genes express themselves
and the way the brain forms
is another symptom.
Not the original cause.
So at this point most of you
know that Alcoholics Anonymous
and the 12-step program
is perhaps the most common,
the most known and the
most highly attended
program for addiction
recovery that exists.
To say it has a choke hold
on the addiction industry,
is an understatement of the century.
AA and the 12-step program,
with regards to every addiction
now, especially alcoholism,
is a bit like the Catholic Church
in the Middle Ages.
That being said,
wasn’t it sacrilegious to say
anything about the Catholic Church
in the Middle Ages?
So the likelihood of what
I’m going to go into now,
relative to a in the 12-step program,
is likely to really upset some people
as you will probably see in
the comments below this video.
However, at the risk of upsetting people,
as per usual,
I’m going to express
a higher objective reality about
AA and the 12-step program.
There is one core reason
why AAA meetings work for anyone.
The reason is,
is that those meetings
and specifically the way those
meetings are conducted,
is actually the closest
that the majority of Alcoholics
and we could say addicts in general,
have had to a safe relationship.
They are also the closest
that most addicts,
including alcoholics,
have ever come to relief
from the loneliness they feel
all the time.
It is the way that other people
relate to them in that group
and the rules of conduct
laid down by the organization itself,
and supervised by the group leader,
that creates the sensation of safety.
Given the wounding that
compel someone to drink,
this is healing.
It’s healing because it’s the
“opposite experience”.
If you look at an AAA meeting,
so many of the elements
that are taking place during that meeting,
are elements of a safe relationship.
Things like being able to
expose your vulnerabilities
and them never being used against you.
Things like someone
being available to you
if you need them any time of the night.
Things like being able to express yourself
and be heard seen and felt.
And being able to make mistakes,
without experiencing
the loss of connection.
All of these things are core
features of this program.
The other sad reality,
is that as a human right now,
we ascribed the lowest
possible value to an addict.
Is it any surprise then,
then when we behave
this way towards addicts,
why they would flock
so directly to a fellowship
of likewise alienated individuals?
These are the scapegoats of society.
These are the outcasts.
Of course they’re going to gravitate
to a group of people who understand them,
who see feel and hear them,
people who have had
similar experiences.
And most importantly, similar pain.
On top of this,
AAA is free.
It is an around the globe,
around-the-clock support network,
which quite frankly,
people who are addicts need.
And it is something that
most addiction programs
quite literally can’t offer.
That being said,
AAA and 12-step programs
are addiction the resources,
which should not be confused
for addiction treatment programs.
Okay, so now that we have
gone into those things,
it’s obvious why
AAA would be something
that anybody who’s addicted would cling to
and what benefits actually come out of it.
Now, let’s look at the
other side of the coin.
An AAA meeting
is not necessarily
full of people who are safe.
Even if the structure of it
and the way that its conducted
is the closest that most people
have gotten to a safe relationship,
it doesn’t mean the people who
are there are inherently safe themselves.
In fact,
it may be on the lower end of the scale
of places to meet safe people
and there are a few reasons for this.
Depending on what country you live in,
many times the court actually mandates
criminals to attend AAA meetings,
if they have an addiction issue.
So your likelihood of running into
somebody with a criminal record,
is actually higher there.
Several people meet their
perpetrators in AAA meetings.
Also, you have to understand
that there is not a person who
sits down at an AAA meeting
who is not in need of emotional,
especially relationship rehabilitation.
That’s what really needs
to be done there.
It means that these
people do not actually
know how to have relationships.
It means that these very
painful social patterns
are still present in them
and could very well
come out on you.
This doesn’t make them bad or wrong,
any more than a wild
animal is bad or wrong.
But you have to know
what you’re dealing with.
I mean if you’re dealing with an
animal that’s been very damaged
the likelihood of you opening the cage
and sticking your hand in and
not getting bitten, is very low.
And by the way,
with that bitten analogy,
this applies to even the
very sweetest people
who attend AA meetings.
Because even them, the
most codependent of them,
can carry out incredibly
painful patterns socially.
Many of the methods
that are used by AAA and 12-step programs
are completely outdated methodologies
that have no place in addiction treatment.
When these programs were created,
it was an assumption that addiction
was in fact, a moral issue.
It was a character flaw.
It was a lack of willpower.
Because moral defect or moral weakness
was thought to be at the
heart of addiction treatment,
There are explicitly Christian
overtones in AAA.
The fact that there are overtly
Christian overtones in AAA
is a problem.
But it’s a problem I’m not
going to go directly into.
Why? Because many AAA programs
and 12-step programs
have swayed away from
these Christian overtones
and tried to create
something more agnostic.
That being said,
even these more agnostic groups
tend to focus at addiction healing
as if it is a moral issue.
Morality has absolutely no place
in a conversation about addiction.
It has nothing to do with addiction.
And if you start focusing
at it as if it does,
that only creates more shame.
Right? Morality is a sense of
goodness versus badness,
right versus wrong.
It has no place in addiction.
If you start focusing at it like it does,
you actually reinforce shame.
Shame is the bedrock
of the self-concept of an addict.
It’s the reason most of them
can’t admit they’ve got a
problem in the first place.
Because why?
In a relationship that’s unsafe,
it’s not safe to admit you have a problem.
So if you want to reinforce
the very condition creating in
the alcoholism in the first place,
go ahead and make it a moral issue.
The other perhaps biggest issue
that the universe at large has
with the 12-step program, with AAA,
is that it encourages you to
recognize that you’re powerless
and to place your faith and healing
in a higher power.
This in fact increases the risk of relapse
and the risk that those relapses
will be more and more severe.
It’s important to accept reality.
Reality is:
“I cannot control everything in life.”
Reality is:
“I’m abusing alcohol to cope with my life
and it’s creating huge problems
for myself and the people around me.”
But reality is that you’re not powerless
and you do not have to nor should you
place your faith regarding healing,
in a higher power than yourself.
Besides the fact that this is
total BS on a universal level,
it’s also reinforcing the
alcoholic’s feelings
that they are powerless in general.
Remember that the original
wound underneath the alcoholism
involves powerlessness
relative to relationships
and creating what one genuinely
wants in order to feel good.
These features reinforce the wound.
They don’t fix it.
That being said, you also
have to understand
that the curriculum that was
created for a and 12-step programs,
that took place at a time where
it was really common to be an addict.
Meaning alcoholism was just…
What every Dad was like.
And the program itself,
was designed specifically
for white men.
Now what benefited
these people at the time,
who were making all kinds of excuses,
about why it was fine for them
to do what they were doing,
was to admit that they were powerless.
But there are many groups,
women, minorities,
who never actually felt that way.
They were never in a position in society
where it would benefit
them in any way, to say:
“I can’t control everything.”
they already were powerless.
So coming to them and reinforcing
this concept of powerlessness,
of those demographics especially,
did not swing them more
towards the humility of:
“I can’t control everything,
but I admit I have a problem”,
it swung them deeper into powerlessness
than was ever there before.
Another issue:
Many AAA programs,
12-step programs
included in these,
they reinforce the idea
that once an addict,
always an addict.
Yet again, this is complete and total BS.
It also defies the universal
law of healing.
Addiction is nothing more
than a frickin’ tendency.
It’s a tendency to cope with
distress in a certain way.
So to say that because you
cope with stress in that way,
you will always run the risk of
coping with stress in that way,
it’s retardation.
To pathologize yourself in this way
and to believe yourself to always
be defective in this way
or at risk of it,
not only reinforces self-distrust,
but it’s also detrimental
to your self-concept.
But it’s at this point that
I have to talk about
this very deep shadow that I’m noticing
in many of these 12-step programs
and AAA groups.
And it’s that you have to believe:
Once an addict, always an addict,
in order to keep your sense of belonging.
Obviously you don’t really
belong in an AAA group,
if you’re not an alcoholic still, right?
So you’re gonna keep going for 20 years.
Why are you gonna keep
going for 20 years?
Because that’s your place to belong.
That’s your place for safe relationships.
That’s the closest to safe
relationships you’ve ever gotten,
that’s where you’re not lonely.
Of course, you’re going to defend
that and be there forever.
But what if the risk of that,
is having to maintain
an identity of an addict forever?
Is it worth the payoff?
Only you can answer that question.
Even though some of these
groups are getting better,
most of these groups like
AAA and 12-step program,
do not understand that it is the trauma
that is underneath this distress
that is causing the desire to use alcohol,
in the first place,
that is the problem.
What they do is that they focus on
overcoming alcohol addiction
as if it is a matter
of developing willpower
and morality alone.
Yet again,
addiction is not a matter
of an issue of willpower.
My last point,
my last issue, shall I say,
that the universe at large has
with the 12 step program,
is that it’s a one-size-fits-all approach.
That being said I have
to give some leniency
because it is very difficult to
create a group program
that is not a one-size-fits-all
this distress or these wounds
that are creating addictions in general,
but in this case alcoholism,
there are different wounds.
Even though they share similarities,
every person is gonna have a
different variable in their life
that led to why they have
this coping mechanism
in the first place.
And therefore they have
individual awarenesses,
individual tools which will work for them
and individual resolutions
which need to take place
in order for them to make it
so that there’s no wound there present
that you’re wanting to drink to cover up.
That means that true addiction treatment
actually must be an
individualized process.
And that these group experiences
can be an addition to
and a support process
let’s called it a resource for addiction,
not a treatment in and of itself.
When the reality of addiction
is that people need specifically
tailored awareness
and specifically tailored solutions,
what this means is that
that popular slogan:
“People fail the program, the
program doesn’t fail the people”,
is also complete and total BS.
It is the program failing the people,
not the people failing the program.
Because the program is
being treated by society
as if it is a treatment program,
instead of an accessory to treatment.
Okay, all that being
said about alcoholism,
what should you do
if you struggle with alcoholism?
1. Your first step away from alcoholism
is to decide you don’t want to drink.
Now what I just said
is pretty interesting.
You may not understand it right away,
so let me dive deeper.
For the majority of people
who are trying to quit alcohol,
it’s not a genuine desire not to drink.
It’s something that they
feel they shouldn’t do.
It’s something they feel
they have to use their
will power not to do.
Now, this is the thing I
need you to understand,
will power is really something
that has to be used
only when someone has
a desire to do something.
Obviously, you don’t need
to use your will power
to oppose yourself in any way,
if you decide: “I don’t
want to drink anymore”,
So the very first and most
empowering step is:
“I don’t want to drink anymore.”
Now obviously, if you
can’t say this, honestly…
Ask yourself why.
As for not wanting to drink anymore,
aside from all the plethora
of detrimental things
that alcohol is doing
to your life currently,
I have something that should help you out.
As much as people are
going to resist the hell
out of what I’m about to say…
The human body is not designed
to handle alcohol.
Alcohol is not good
for the human body.
Alcohol is a drug,
alcohol is an intoxicant
and alcohol is toxic to the human body.
Now I know that those of you
who would love to justify alcohol,
would love to tell me:
“But wait there have been studies
that prove that alcohol is right.”
Look deeper into those studies.
Because there’s some very
interesting reasons why
these results have turned out.
If you’re going to make the argument
that alcohol is good for people at all,
the reason is because,
I can’t tell you how much toll
it takes on the human body
to be walking around in a state
of stress and tension.
It is no joke that because of
the various effects of alcohol,
it causes a person to
release that tension.
This tension that people are living with,
takes a toll on people’s health.
Including heart health.
Including blood pressure.
So, it’s only natural
that if somebody is
self-medicating in that way
and releasing tension in that way,
you will see a physiological effect.
That being said,
is that the right method
for going about releasing that tension?
Another thing is,
a lot of the arguments towards:
“It’s an antioxidant”,
isn’t about alcohol at all,
In fact, it’s about the specific fruits
the alcohol is made from.
So, for example,
you could get the very same benefits
from drinking something like grape juice
that you could from
drinking something like
wine made from grapes.
It’s the grape that is the antioxidant.
Yet again, this begs the question:
Isn’t there a better way to do it?
Now, this next one
I find the most amusing.
If you look deep into these studies
that are done around heart health
and sipping red wine,
it’s gonna make you kind of vomit,
because these studies are done with people
who sip red wine every day.
What does that tell you?
The people who they studied,
in order to be able to afford
sipping red wine every night,
obviously came from a
different social stratus.
This means higher incomes,
this means more education
around health in general,
this means the probability of them
actually eating a healthier diet
and having access to healthier foods
and healthier lifestyle in general,
is exponential.
Therefore, is it really
the wine doing it?
Or is it the demographic and the lifestyle
that that demographic lives,
that creates your variables
in terms of heart health
and wine?
~ Laughter ~
I don’t want you to forget that smoking
was once a staple of human society
and the doctors and studies
once that smoking was healthy, too.
I am telling you this
as a medical intuitive.
I am telling you this
having grown up in a culture
that really doesn’t like alcohol,
so everything in me would love to say
that that culture is messed up
and that alcohol is fine.
It’s not fine for the human body.
You will find this out in the future
and I realize that upsets people,
but there it is.
2. Accept that you are not
powerless to addiction at all.
It is extremely difficult
to let go of a coping mechanism,
when letting go of that
coping mechanism
means landing in all the pain
you were really desperately
needing to get out of.
That is not weakness on your part
that you want to get out of that pain.
I of all people understand,
the level of pain you
have to be going through
to have an addiction so extreme,
anyone who was in that pain
would be reaching and
grasping for a solution,
regardless of whether it cause
other pain in their life or not.
So you have the utmost compassion
for the fact that that is
a strategy you’re using.
That being said, you’re not powerless.
You are responsible for
everything you’re doing,
saying, all the actions you’re taking.
That being said,
the things you’re thinking
saying and doing
are not actually the byproduct
of your free will currently.
They’re the byproduct of determinism.
Saying that something is
created by determinism
means that it is created
by unconscious traumas,
which have become patterns
which are now unresolved within you.
3. The only real way
to resolve alcoholism,
is to really face the distress
that you are trying to alleviate
through taking alcohol.
This approach is distinctly different
than focusing at alcohol use disorder
as if Alcoholism is a disorder,
in the first place.
This is also distinctly different
than focusing on alcohol
as if it, the substance itself
is addictive.
The 12-step program encourages abstinence
because it believes you’re powerless
and thus must completely avoid alcohol.
What if I told you that if
you resolve the pain
you’re using alcohol to dule out,
there will no longer be a craving
for it, in the first place.
In other words the alcoholism itself,
should be treated like a
symptom, not a cause.
For this reason,
though spirituality can serve a
role in some people’s healing,
it should never be central
to the treatment of addiction.
Now the fact that I as a
spiritual teacher in the world,
am telling you this,
means you really
need to listen to it, when I say that.
When a spiritual teacher themselves
looks you in the face and says,
that the central aspect of
treatment of addiction
should never be spirituality,
that is a very serious statement.
Spirituality, when it’s viewed
as a way of treating alcoholism
can have many detrimental effects.
Chief among them avoidance
of the original wounding
that needs resolution,
as well as the substitution of
non-physical relationships
for human relationships.
You’ve already learned from this episode,
that the core wounding
that creates alcoholism
is unsafety in relationships,
specifically human ones.
This means it is all too tempting
for an alcoholic
to throw out the window
the thing they actually
need for healing
which is to create safe
human relationships,
and instead replace it for
a relationship with God.
4. In order to heal pain,
you have to actually go directly into it.
It’s this methodology of:
“The only way out is in”
I know this is the exact
opposite direction
that you actually want to be going.
However, if you want a
resolution to alcoholism,
that is the direction you need to go.
It is also beneficial for you to do this,
to go into this pain
or this deep well that is
underneath your addiction,
with someone else.
This can be when it’s useful
to abstain from alcohol.
If you do not engage in drinking,
those wounds that you’re trying
to avoid with the alcohol
will begin to speak loudly.
This makes them easier to directly
become aware of and resolve.
When you are deciding to
get off of any substance,
it’s very important that you
prepare for this process.
Because obviously, the
experience of withdrawal
can be very very serious.
It’s something that I think is best to
study so you know what to expect
and kind of rearrange your life
so that there is at least some space
for that process to happen.
Space for you to be in pain.
Space for those painful
withdrawal symptoms to occur.
Space where you can actually go into it.
I have created a process
to specifically go into the
pain underneath addictions.
It is called: The Completion Process
If you’re interested in learning
how to do this process
pick up a copy of my book
that is quite literally titled:
The Completion Process
Or to find a practitioner that can
lead you through the process
It is the failure to focus
on these deep wounds
and deep distress points
that underlie addictions,
that is the reason for this
incredibly poor success rate
that you see with rehab centers
and 12-step programs.
5. You know that the root of alcoholism
is unsafety in relationships.
This means unsafety with people.
So what does this mean?
If you want to heal from alcoholism,
that’s what to master.
The mastery that needs
to be created in your life
is relationships.
This means it’s time to become obsessed
with learning how to
have a safe relationship,
what not safe relationships are,
what are the components of both?
Your purpose on this planet, shall we say,
if this is your wound,
is to become an expert
in how to have a safe relationship.
What I just said is really big.
It means you’re here to heal
your experience of unsafe relationship.
So you can understand what healing is,
I encourage you to watch my video titled:
What is Healing?
Your obsession from this point forward
should be learning how to
create safe relationships
and then actually creating
them in your life.
This means you have to become safe
for other people, too.
Now, I know it’s difficult to admit,
but the thing is, is that if
you have made a decision
based on your experiences in life,
that relationships are unsafe,
you react to that in a
specific way, don’t you?
If the law of the land is it’s every
man out for themselves
and you can’t trust people to take
your best interests into account,
You become overly concerned
only with your best interests.
You become defensive,
you become armored.
You start to behave in a way
you of course, feel like
it’s a “defense strategy”
but a person in a state of defense
by definition is not safe to
be in relationship with.
So one of the hardest things to face
when you’re walking down this road
of having safe relationships is,
the ways that you yourself
are unsafe in relationships.
Also that being said,
if you are an alcoholic,
the likelihood of you
having people in your life
still today…
That can’t actually have a
safe relationship, is high.
This means that,
you’re not going to be able
to create safe relationships
with everyone in your life.
And you may just figure out that
there are some changes you
need to make drastically
to your social life and
your social circles.
To get you started on this journey
of mastering safe relationships,
watch my video titled:
How to Create a Safe Relationship
You use alcohol in many ways,
to escape the pain,
the tension, the discomfort
that you feel about
feeling like you cannot
make changes to your relationship.
However from a universal level,
it’s not really beneficial
to cope in that way,
because coping implies you
can’t change something.
>From a universal level it’s a
hundred times more important
to actually create safe relationships,
instead of cope
with unsafe ones.
6. The unconscious perception
that you can’t have people
in your life that are safe
that they don’t exist,
or that there’s no way to
make relationships feel good
and safe long term,
isn’t actually true.
Chances are if you look at your childhood,
you’re gonna notice a great
dysfunction around emotions.
Chief among them,
you’re gonna notice
that when you had specific emotions,
there was a or multiple
caregivers in your life
who weren’t okay with
you having that emotion.
In other words,
unless it suited them for
you to have an emotion,
you didn’t get to have it.
The pattern is this:
Many of them made decisions for you.
Decisions that weren’t actually
in alignment with your
best interests at all,
even though they thought they were.
It hurt you.
You reacted to the fact that it hurt you
and it wasn’t in your best interest,
But when you did that,
who was the problem?
Them for taking the action?
Or you for having the reaction you had?
The answer is the latter.
Their actions conveyed the message:
“I’m gonna punch you now,
but you don’t get to
have a problem with it.
In fact, thank me for it,
or I’m gonna make you the problem.”
In order to survive in your childhood home
you became a suppressor.
You had to suppress your
authentic thoughts,
your authentic feelings,
your authentic desires and needs
because everything you were
was in conflict with the people
in your childhood environment.
If you manage to suppress these things,
well, you turned into
the family codependent.
Let’s call it the golden child, shall we?
The person who lost their identity
for the sake of the
relationships in their life.
Now if you weren’t able to suppress
these feelings and these perceptions
and needs an authentic aspects of you,
well, you were turned into
the family scapegoat.
Either way regardless of
what role you ended up in,
the underlying message you received is:
“The way you feel is not okay for me,
unless it’s what I want.”
“The way you think it’s not okay for me,
unless it’s the way that I think.”
What you want is not okay,
unless it’s in alignment
with what I want.”
You don’t really get to have a you.
And you really don’t get
to notice your emotions.
So suppression is the way
to exist in this household.
That’s become your style of emotions now.
I mean, if you look at alcohol use,
it’s so much about a
person who suppresses.
For this reason,
I’m very strongly ask you
to watch one of my videos.
It’s titled:
The Emotional Wake Up Call
You need to learn how
to deal with emotions
in yourself and in others.
The most important question
to ask yourself is:
“What am I trying to suppress
or numb out with alcohol?”
What are the actual thoughts
and emotions underneath
the action I am taking
or the specific behavior
that I’m exhibiting
and where did those thoughts
and emotions come from?”
“What does the alcohol give me
that I can’t seem to
experience without it.”
Loneliness is a core experience in life
that all alcoholics share.
This is true, whether they recognize
and admit to it or not.
Alcohol is often used to sedate
this feeling of emptiness.
Also, the core self concept that
alcoholics have is that of shame,
which is a central pillar of loneliness.
For this reason,
I encourage you to pick up
a copy of my book titled:
The Anatomy of Loneliness
in which I explain the exact
makeup of loneliness
including separation, shame and fear.
In the book I show you how
to resolve these things
that create loneliness,
so that you can feel true
connection in your life instead.
Approach the pain or tension
underneath the addiction
as well as the problems created
by the addiction itself,
with a holistic approach.
When it comes to healing,
you can approach healing
on a mental level,
on an emotional level,
on a physical level
and in fact, healing is often the best
when you approach it
from all of these levels.
There are so many things you can try
that are an incredible accessory to
or element of your healing
and well-being in life.
Try these things and see
what works for you.
Things like meditation,
liver cleanses, changes
regarding nutrition,
exercise, community projects,
energy work, financial changes,
changes to your living environment,
relationship workshops.
This is just to name a few.
Your goal should be to try these things
so that you can discover
those necessary ingredients
to your specific well-being.
And remember,
alcoholism, just like
every other addiction
is not a defect in morality.
It is not a defective character.
It does not make you bad.
It does not make you wrong.
And so there is no reason
to be ashamed of this.
Have a good week.
Subtitles by: Tanya Duarte
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100 thoughts on “Alcoholism and How to Quit Drinking Alcohol

  • I drink so much alcohol sometimes I hear demons talking to me and playing with my mind when I’m withdrawing. I see why they call it spirits for sure.

  • I dont drink at all. I dont do drugs. I take flu meds in winter and love the effect of alertedness and well being it provides to mask the flu symptoms. Apart from that I smoke cbd for health

  • I can’t believe the timing of this one . My mom is an alcoholic, as are a lot of people in the family. Thank you Teal so so much.

  • BE CAREFUL about Teal Swan! She is a souless one/matrix programmed entity. I confirmed this with my source self pendulum. Entities are trying to mislead source players to keep them away from the real truth about this matrix.

  • Your bad points about AA remind me of the fact that “13th stepping” even exists 🤢🤮 I’ll stick to therapy and meditation.

  • Just went to my second AA meeting last night and came home parroting 90% of what you just explained in this video. THANK YOU. I’m on the right path to healing my wounds.

  • Alcohol is a tool and a Mastery. Learned a lot. I can also see how it can be a habit. Fine line for people like me. Most of my life was in AA till 9yes ago.
    Appreciate to insight. Excellent. Of Course🐎🐎🐎👑

  • Teal, as always, that was an amazingly informative and eye-opening video. Could you do a video on coming off of SSRI anti-depressants? Myself and others I know are really struggling with the physical symptoms of withdrawal long after what they were prescribed for has passed. Thanks 🙏🏼

  • EXACTLY! Anyone who knows their stuff will agree with you. I will share this as well with my peeps, we need people like you to explain to them how it truly works~ Great Job, but you know it already! ;O)

  • Thank you for continuing to create content. I find your videos so valuable. I’m so grateful to have access to this information.

    Thought you were good followed for a few years you don’t know what your talking about your dangerous, you say your a spiritual adviser maybe but your not alcoholic then you try to sell a book about it profit from others hell UNSUBSCRIBED BYE 👋 🙏

  • Excellently video and explanation regarding this subject.

    I get the part of not feeling safe in relationships. Relationships with others and may be the relationship within myself….? It is also great to see and hear someone explain addiction is a way to cope with pain within one's self, from the past. In my opinion the focus is it is a disease, illness. It is a – dis – ease, within self, faulty learnt programming from the past. The addiction is a symptom and not the cause, in my opinion to distract from the feeling within, emptiness and shame. Deal with the cause, feel what is happening within, what are the thoughts in the moment creating the feeling and face with love and acceptance. I sometimes want some one to just listen to how I feel inside, sometimes very dark thoughts, but listen and accept with out judgement. I don't feel safe to do this within relationships.

    I do create this space for my daughter when she is upset, hoping she feels ok to express how she feels in the moment and within herself, with acceptance and love. May be I need to create this more for myself.

    Thank you Teal for another great video. With love.

  • In my experience, she's absolutely right. I figured out a lot of it on my own and stopped problem drinking 20 years ago, using the same and similar strategies. I used to get really drunk nearly every day for 15 years, so there's no such thing as a problem "too serious" to resolve. It starts with being kind to yourself. (defining "kind" is the tricky bit)

  • Crazy! Today is day 7 of not drinking. I've been trying for a really long time to stop. And I'll stopped for a few days I've made it to 10 days once, but then I just go back. I'm just pretty excited this popped up. I love you to forever Teal!! I would love to hang out with you.

  • I quit like 7 years ago. Have gotten drunk 5 years ago, took two sips 4 years ago. I just stopped. I watched teals videos and they helped

  • Alcohol has a negative effect on the inner workings of the body. So, the healing benefits of taking alcohol in moderation is a concoction of the mind, a placebo.
    A real spiritual teacher demonstrates many things, one of them being sensitivity, which results in veganism.
    Its one of the many tests on the path to authenticity.

  • Like every other "structure" (i.e. Religion, Government, Social Financial, etal) created under this masculine (mental) "Creator" (including AA), It becomes It's own consciousness with a "belief system" (written word as "gospel")…. It's not rocket science…'It' only wants to receive Love (connection) and so "Alcoholics Anonymous" wants you to remain an "alcoholic"…. in your mind… Big Love Oh, BTW, I just had a Beautiful 'Word' come back to me today…It was a significant one I heard after my 13 day "Initiation" was completed (without the 'What', 'Why' and 'When') over 8 years ago… The Word was 'Freedom'…. I Feel so at 'Peace' now… and so 'Sovereign'… with No Lack… No 'Hunger' anymore … Thank you…

  • So I'm reading this book series by Samuel Sagan the Atlantean Secrets, is actually what gave me the desire and a belief that I can stop drinking. It always seems like when anxiety gets so bad I just go back to drinking again. But there's a part in this book that talks about how we need to cook in the fire to refine us. And I realize that even though it's painful and uncomfortable and I have to deal with emotions and anxiety and stuff that I don't want to have to deal with, it will be worth it. Anyway the
    Withdrawals are like staying in the fire, and even though it's causing me pain and discomfort temporarily, ultimately it's going to be really good for me. Thank you Teal! I love you!

  • Thank you for this broad-, deep- and far reaching teaching, Teal 💜📐🦢

    I recently did a Tara ritual at a local lake by a cathedral after officially de-Christianing myself from the State Church here ⛪ 🇳🇴 and a quintet of cygnets 🦢 came crazy close. I let one of them bite me without resorting to anger and in the whole 15 minutes they were a few feet from my face, none of them hissed even once.

    It made me think of you, and I invoked your presence. I’ve some childhood PTSD from being attacked by a protective mother swan whose mest I ignoratly skipped rocks nearby and whom in panic at the sudden attack by a bird almost my height, probably broke its neck with a stick. I feel I made some amends.

    Also, drugs are bad, mmmkay? By which I mean, this is a skillful, wise and appropriate tackling of addiction and alcoholism in particular. You go, Dharmacharin Aryasangha sizztah 🌟💙🙏

  • I am a twelve stepper and regularly attend meetings. I like what is being spoken here. AA does the best it can with what it has got to offer. It works for me. What is commonly heard at meetings is that alcohol use makes things worse, never better over a period of time. Outside help is never discouraged but encouraged. I was given 'bedrock" information to use as I moved thru the many obstacles in my life. As teal stated, these were the first sober and spiritual people I had ever met. That being said I was able to move toward a spiritual life which in turn has led me to these wonderful videos. AA is a great place to begin one's journey. I have never looked back.

  • I don't care for or enjoy drinking. I prefer mdma and lsd. What is the trauma for being addicted to junk food but mostly chocolate?

  • Brilliant Teal. 💯 Met you last night in the ethers. Not much conversation though the energy/attraction that to me in dream means communicate. You were sitting to my left. I couldn't figure out where we were…almost like a small box. But just before watching this I was sitting in a similar space, crying, surrendering and then remembered my dream. In the dream you were to my left and then gone and I was eatting a green apple. It upset my stomach and then the detox to put it politely. LOL I looked behind me and you were there. Of course I apologized. Wow so I guess you get 2 apologizes, last night and right now. All of what you said is me..self preservation that tends to hurt others. I am sorry for being so much fire&water. I have noticed as I've began putting boundaries down with people…my desire to "drink" has lessened though when in a rage…I do rebel and bing depending on the level of fire I feel inside. Yeah probably should watch your video on Handling Emotions.A safe hug in those moments is really all I need to simmer. And yeah addiction is a pain killer. At 11yrs old I was in si much "pain" I huffed gas twice to just make it stop. Realized that was real stupid quick but just shows what you're talking about. Also at that age had a slight addiction to cutting&burning as a tool to cope and connect. Also that pain made me forget what was eatting at my body and I had no control over it nor anyone to help me. People can judge me with any label that want from my honesty and weirdness but the truth is most would have lost their minds trying to cope with the layers you&I were forced to. Again, great video and I will check out the other two. Thank you truly.

  • Iv been drinking 19 years, of hell, all most everyday since 17 years old, the blue pilled alcohol doctors iv been seeing since i was 21 have made things worse, they look down on me,, and when i slip up'' they say''''''thats not good is it''''''are you actually ready to give up drinking a d a m.

  • I drank for 20 years daily and binge drank before that. Did the 12 steps and been sober 2 years next month. It was a very uncomfortable process with alot of hard work looking at my pain through the steps. I agree with most everything here yet I do believe AA can save lives like mine. I don't need meetings now but are helpful in the beginning. Alot go to help others and not for themselves. It does say in the AA book it isn't a moral problem it's a symptom! Thankyou for this video.

  • Thank the heavens these things are being called-out! I've had similar strong suspicions and convictions, so this is extra-validating~ and some important points I'd not yet fully connected the dots on have been soo helpful to hear.
    Freaking love this video…wonderful; soo needed.
    Thank~You, from the bottom of my 💜✨!!!

  • Teal's right in respect of London, and England… can say that being British. Very complex, but would have thought America has same issue, but perhaps a different dynamic. But yep, "pretence" that's very prevalent in much of society!

  • So much agree with Teal, as someone who lost a loved one to drug and alcohol, the labelling of someone as an "alcoholic" and defective… is far from helpful, in fact it is often used as an escape from blame mechanism by families, and for that matter society.

  • As a Brit, that is a great point about drinking cultures being a release valve for those who feel inauthentic in their daytime lives.

  • Think you're making a mistake however Teal,. Spirituality is good and helpful for addictions, applying 'religion' is not. Spirituality is the free loose form of energy moving forward, which is none dictatorial; while religion is fixed and rigid, and is dictatorial. Then again, this are just my own musings and feelings, but that seems right.

  • Alcoholics Anonymous is not the only solution as they will tell you in the AA literature. But Alcoholics Anonymous does teach us to look at ourselves and make improvements towards spiritual growth. There is no doctrine like that of the early Christian Church. The 12 step programs teach us to be mentally healthy. I can tell that Teal has a very shallow knowledge of Alcoholics Anonymous. If you do not want to go, then don’t go, but for me, AA has completely changed my life to the point that I am no longer considered to be mentally ill by many. Not saying that my case is just like everyone else’s. I have heard two psychiatrists say that Alcoholics Anonymous is one of the greatest organizations that could come about. It gets people to take an HONEST look at themselves and people who have been successful share how they have overcome similar obstacles. The big book of Alcoholics Anonymous are SUGGESTIONS from people who have recovered from a spiritual malady that caused them to depend on Alcohol or drugs to get by in life. Anyone who puts themself on a pedestal and feels that they are all knowing with the solution to everyone’s problems will see with a blurry vision. Realizing that we do not know everything is wisdom it’s self.

  • My god, all of this was refreshing to hear. I’ve tried explaining this to my family and friends and they just don’t get it, but I totally and completely understand everything you’ve said because it’s precisely what I think and know. Thank you so much for this video. I will be sharing. ♥️

  • I went to AA once. Most people were still on weed and or heavy psychiatric meds- which seemed like hypocrisy to me. I have been sober on my own for 5 years next month. I'm not an alcoholic. I am someone who is lonely and very depressed. Quitting alcohol has given me one less problem- but hasn't solved my pain or my life.

  • Thank you teal! I realized my anxiety was from the alcohol I’d drink the night before. It’s been only a week and I feel high on life ❤️🙏

  • Omg you are so full of yourself. Your a spiritual teacher? It sounds like you don’t even really know what the AA program is about? Have you even ever gone to a meeting? Know about the steps? You just want to sell your book. I know plenty of alcoholics who had fine family lives growing up. Dysfunctional relationships and an unsafe home life of course plays a part it’s way more than that. -there is the “phenomenon of craving” she has nerve talking about what being an alcoholic is and how it she’s condescending and predatory this video is about promoting herself Omg you have nerve. How do you know? Meetings aren’t about morality and it’s a god of your understanding and also it’s “take what you need and leave the rest” all of which introduces people to another philosophy outside of what they were already stuck in. Granted staying with in the program’s dogma can become an issue. The steps address the underlining trauma. It’s a stepping stone. I can see through this and clearly she hasn’t done any real research about what AA is and she’s not an alcoholic so she couldn’t possibly speak about it.

  • My dad was raised in Minnesota on a farm. His parents, my grandparents had a bar on the property. My dad remembered that his dad was a abusive drunk 🥴 whose stupidity costed them the farm. My beloved grandpa was a physically and emotionally abusive drunk 😵. Because of that my dad was never a drinker. I am not a drinker. The mind is complicated and developes complicated webs for thought. Drinking alcohol 🍷 is like throwing water into the web. The web is destroyed and distorted and needs to be rebuilt. Alcoholic people have broken and distorted webs 🕸 for thoughts 💭. Alcoholic minded people are weak minded and illogical. The alcoholic is a shell of a mind.

  • I use alcohol and anxiety meds for escaping for sure but I use them sparingly it’s not a problem to say no to them and have them if I’m feeling like it is that unhealthy?

  • Hello Teal thanks your videos are always amazing. thanks you, thank you, thank you. can you help with a video how to quit gambling and also a video about how to quit smoking. please i have people in my family with this problems.

  • From what I’ve seen from AA is that the policies and steps are worthless and the peer support and accountability is key. Most accountability is best when given from peers. When law enforcement and authority figures dominate the accountability, resistance is inevitable. The key to AA is the peer support and accountability. The steps are relatively worthless!

  • When I lived in Florida I attended a rare support group called “ Emotions Anonymous “. The concept is for people who have emotional problems can get together for support. I made a few good friends in that group and miss them. The group was held together by a few like minded people who are peers and there are no legitimate authority figures. The group was structured after the AA program.

  • I “ retard “ myself and trick myself into thinking 💭 I’m addicted to Teal 🥰 because she’s sooo beautiful 🤩

  • Government run treatment programs blame the patients and inmates for the failure. The state believes it’s treatment techniques are infallible.

  • A very valuable, compassionate and empowering discussion of alcohol addiction/dependency and addictions in general. Teal has a lot of key insights about this topic and how addiction can be treated more successfully.

  • 12 step programs are not for everyone; basic principles are applied that bring a person into alignment with their higher self – raises consciousness & serves to allow person to grab a hold of their life & live WITHOUT feelings of shame, guilt, fear by SHARING discussing character deficiencies that allowed extreme egoism…being free is very basic to being there to bring a person back to their humanity. Carrying “the message” of experience strength & hope to those who suffer is key to being connected to a greater consciousness. It is deeply based in self-honesty & digging into the core root of the addiction. Without ability to be honest with oneself first, recovery or being mentally free of self-perpetuating deceit of self & reality checks – a person will not recover / move out of addiction. Maybe Teal, you could apply each step in your life as that is really the only way to understand deeper application of how 12 step programs have highest rate of recovery of any other “program”…just spiritual principles that go back hundreds of years. Nothing “new” about AA – just a couple of white guys desperate enough to find answers (age old principles) back in depression era days where people jumped out of windows when stock market crashed. Thanks for sharing your take. I am sure your offering resonates with some who struggle with all kinds of “addictive ways” – myself included.

  • so I originally watched this video to help my friend and understand him better but I am coming to the realization that everything she is saying really resonates with my feelings that I have in relationships. Maybe this is why me and him are a vibrational match. anyway if anyone has struggled with alcohol or have watched their loved one deal with alcohol please give me some advice on how I can be there for my friend without also getting hurt myself in the process. Its really hard seeing someone you love in that position and not think that they have a problem or not want to seek help professionally, I just dont know what to do anymore.

  • i found out the the word alcohol in latin means body eating spirits ,body eating spirits ,,that says it right there ,,this should be put in high school cariculum what ever how they spell it , thats where this great piece of work by teal swan should be …if they get it or not ,they are not going to find out how it works better than this ..thanks teal

  • I would LOVE a video like that on smoking, both cigarettes and joints… I can't really pinpoint the main issue with smoking. Obviously it's not safety in relationship as it is linked to alcohol…

  • Hi Teal, Thank you very much for putting in the links below for all the videos you referenced. I can never remember them all. 🙏🏼💕🌱

  • I don’t drink but everyone in my family is an alcoholic. my Nana had a lobotomy and it didn’t stop her. How could they do that to her? She was so spiritual and taught me about auras when i was 8 years old. shout out to those of us healing generational traumas while our families say shitty things to us like “you think you’re perfect but you’re not” and “you think you’re better than us” (and i wouldn’t dare bring any of this up in front of them) Alcoholic is like a swear word in our house

    “Can You Remember when You were the Kid and You were Not 'literally indoctrinated' with what the Kontrolling Authorities have done to almost Everyone Here? You were Living the Moment and Exploring whatever You could imagine to be possible for YourSelf at that time. Some will say, those who like Their LiteralMind and formal indoctrination, that to Be & Act like a Kid is immature and more along the lines of Fantasy. Guess what… untilYU, The RealU, Realizes that ThereIS More to what You 'think' is Life, then YOU will keep YourSelf Encased in Your Own MatrixxxWorld! The invented Systems of KONtrol on This Planet Earth are Vibrational Kontrol that get unaware people to Agree to Their Restrictions! They are 'created imagery' that has become Agreed to, then they 'seem' to be the only 'reality' there is. In Creation, anything can be a Person's Reality. This is how Creation is, but Not So with The Real UNUversisss of RealFreedom beyond ALL of Creation, where there are NO Restrictions & NO Authorities! RealKids usually Fly in Their Dreams, because Kids Know that Fantasy 'IS' a Reality all it's own that can be Lived! Indoctrinated Hypnosed LiteralAdults only 'see' the Agreeable considerations they have piled on themselves since they 'were' the Kid, and Now have Forgotten! LiteralAdults like the Restricting Rules & Regulations the KONtrolling SocialMakers have created for unaware people to get Lost in! WWWE~Wonderful WorldWide Educators Make Sense and Provide a RealEducation for The RealU, Your RealAwarenisss, to understand Why YOU Came Here, and that 'IS' to WakeUP ALL The Way! You have come to Learn, Understand & Realize certain 'things' about Creation & YourSelf while You have been Here, but ThereIS So Much More that YOU Do Not Seee. Do You want to Stay Stuck with 'what you know' or Do YOU Want to Free YourSelf From ALL Your Agreed Upon Restrictions? There is NO freedom on This Planet, or in the Heavens of Man, or all of Creation, there is only Authorities who will continue to keep YOU Growing Old & Older, until You have Forgotten once more that You were ever Here! JOIN US… WWWE are The NUKids Here for Everyone!

  • This was so good. Almost every dad/man is STILL an alcoholic and there are still many smokers out there, unfortunately.

  • Excellent video as always. There is no need for alcohol at all. I don't drink alcohol and I don't put it on my skin.

  • Yes we need to offer free therapy to all people around the globe. We need to create non profit donation based (religion free) Help Centers so that all people can find an emotional refuge and finally have a place that is there for them like a big mom. We Need this desperately. Teenagers need this. Society is Chaos right now.

  • I just got your book a few days ago and have gotten to the part of creating a safe haven and it's like my higher self knows what's coming or maybe just the peace of half ass visualizing the safe haven while I'm reading is really "doing something to me" for extreme lack of a better term. I always told my family that if I could work through everything they put me through as a kid, I could heal and wouldn't have addiction problems. But I was a textbook scapegoat for all of them so they were "just trying to help me" since I was so sick and all. Lol! Now I'm helping them and all the younger generation of my family break the cycle of that dysfunction. Very satisfyingly ironic. Can't wait to meet you and collaborate one day Teal! Thank you, I truly appreciate your work.

  • Oh, I've noticed that you have the overcoming the mental part of addiction covered but could you do a video on actually detoxing your body to make withdrawal symptoms easier to handle? Especially when you have a full time job and household to manage?

  • i can't stand how drinking is promoted in media and advertising, to the point of alcohol worship. Like those stupid radio stations that invite you down to some Island to binge drink and yell "yeaaaahhhh" then hurl 🤮

  • I want to come to your work shop Please! My problem is ptsd from a past as dark as yours . My child hood ran into my adult life when I as kicked out of the the house as a kid so I'm 32 but I'm stuck maybe younger. I was rapped for 9 weeks and had a baby at 21. 11 years later that anniversary of the 9 week period is coming up in October /November . I dissociate and will not be able to connect around the holidays . Maybe I need meds to get through the anniversary? I just know years of this cycle is causing health issues and preventing me from growing and reaching a higher potential that what I currently have.

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